Being ghosted by a friend is a terrible trend that is only becoming more popular. Ghosting is when someone that you have been having regular communication with like a friend or someone that you’re dating suddenly stops talking to you. Texts are not read. Phone calls are not returned. And the person may suddenly disappear from your social media. They become ghosts in your life. It’s very difficult to deal with being ghosted by someone that you thought really cared about you. When a friend disappears from your friendship it can be devastating. Some psychologists say that losing a close friend can be even more intense than losing a romantic partner.
Don’t Initiate Contact
When you are ghosted your first instinct might be to try and contact your friend, even more, trying to get them to talk to you. But that just makes you look desperate. And it won’t make the other person talk to you if they don’t want to. When you start to think you’re being ghosted ask that person just once to call you or sit down with you in person. Then they can talk about why they don’t want to be in the friendship anymore. If you get no answer don’t keep contacting them. Their silence is all the answer you need.
Allow Yourself To Grieve
Being ghosted is hard to deal with emotionally. Someone you trusted and thought cared about you is suddenly gone, almost as if they died. You need to allow yourself time to grieve for the loss of the relationship and what it meant to you. They say that after a breakup you need to give yourself at least a month to process your feelings and grieve. When you are ghosted by a friend you need to give yourself the same opportunity to grieve for the loss of that relationship.
Make Your Other Friendships Stronger
A positive way to deal with being ghosted by a friend is to reach out to your other friends and make those friendships stronger. Ask a friend you haven’t talked to in awhile out for coffee. Send a care package or a card. Call a friend that might be having a hard time and be there for them. You can’t fix a friendship with someone who has ghosted you. But you can make it a priority to be there for the people who are still in your life. At the same time, you can remind yourself that you are loved and respected.
Ultimately people will come and go from your life and you can’t do anything about it. But you can continue to meet people and make friends and be glad that they are in your life even if it’s only for a short time. Be thankful for the time that you had with the person that ghosted you and then move on to find new friends. Let us know if you think moving on is the right move. If you enjoyed this then check out more posts from Secure Net Video.